It took me more than two years to go from opposition to acceptance, and I still have to work on it in my current state. Many lovers are holding the heart and feelings of the desire into love, marriage, this field of love, but the heart and feelings can be used as a label, so as to form the basis of love, but they can not guarantee be permanent.  

 

 

 

"I love you because I suddenly feel that you love me."

 

Before I brought Gary (not his real name) home for the first time, I did a lot of psychological work for my parents. I still remember the first time I introduced my boyfriend to my wechat moments, and my parents left messages saying "Sure?" Mother sent a message after a few minutes: "youth is a pronoun brave recklessly, as long as you identify, we will send sincere blessing." Conflicted parents want to respect their child's every choice, with worrying about the correctness and consequences of her choices. When I took Gary home, I called my parents as soon as I got off the plane. May you meet Gary sometime and have dinner together. I hadn't been home or seen my parents for more than a year before my father repeated, "Go home first. I'll deal with that later." After several phone calls, he only got one sentence: "He can't come into our house, the old man said so. Don't bring him into the house. He's lost his legs. It's not good for the family." I hung up the phone angrily. I afraid to let Gary know. Eyes as if by the airport wind to blow dry general, desperately shed tears. When Gary saw the tears, he said angrily, "No, we're going home. I don't have to have dinner with them. If I make you unhappy, we'll go back to Shanghai." Gary's anger added to my guilt. I had asked to meet my parents. Before that, he was afraid that I would be criticized by my parents again because of him, but it was no match for my insistence. At that time, I hoped to get guidance from my parents, so that I could cool down the heat of this relationship and analyze it calmly, so as to understand whether it was worth it for me to fall in love with this person. I don't want to wait until I really decide to talk about marriage that day to tell my parents: "I will not marry him". Later, after nearly 10 hours of cell phone shutdown, my parents finally agreed to meet on a date for dinner. Things seem to be going a little smoothly, but the reality is not so easy to let people relax?

 

 

 

2, "I laugh at your love, with marriage to beg forever, this is the first TIME I heard."

 

At the dinner table, my parents asked Gary in front of me, using a series of seemingly objective arithmetic, "You have to work in Shanghai for more than 300 years to afford a house, but can you live for 300 years? ". I went out on an excuse to try to get them to know each other better. But according to Gary's feedback, my parents wouldn't even bother to talk to Gary without me. The innuendo at the dinner table and the fact that we can't even get close to our neighborhood are a series of inhuman behaviors. I wouldn't say my parents were so mean or snobby, and I was afraid that if I pushed them, it would drive a wedge between them and Gary. It is true that there is a gap between our two families in terms of family finances. Although we can't say that there is a huge difference, we really need to consider it carefully. Therefore, I understand all the behaviors and decisions of my parents. During this period, I am very grateful to Gary for his understanding. He never put pressure on me, blamed or complained to my parents, and put the feelings of my parents and me first. When we got back to Shanghai, we agreed not to tell Gary's parents. He, too, is a treasure of another family, bringing good news but not bad. I couldn't bear to see the look on Gary's mother's face. Fortunately, after returning to Shanghai, my parents relaxed a little about our love - "it's ok to fall in love, but it's prudent to get married".

 

 

 

3. They accepted it!

 

This May Day, I took Gary home to meet a number of relatives, from grandmother, parents and other elders to younger brother, cousin and other younger generations of 15 relatives, is the second official meeting with parents. At that time, my friends asked me, "Why do you have the courage to meet me again after the first incident?" Since it's not the age or time when you have to get married, why rush it? Don't you think it's unfair to Gary? To be honest, I have no idea where this relationship is going to go or where the couple will end up.

 

 

4. "Eternity is too expensive for anyone to buy"

 

I care more about the present than the future. I also have my own confusion and confusion about this love, and I know more clearly that only more contact and integration into each other's family can the answer be found in my heart. Before May Day, although I had met him before, every time I talked with my father, my father would pretend not to know me when HE heard me mention Gary. He would ask me, "Who is Gary? Who is he yours?" He seemed to have to hear me say "my boyfriend" over and over again before he could stop. Funny and realistic way to do it. And this May Day, more than just eat, but a group of families together to play for 3 days, to the aquarium, playground, see the drama. This persistence is happy and worthwhile. After we left on May Day, my aunt, sister and aunt even had a video call to blame me for not knowing how to take care of people, saying that Gary walked slowly but I didn't know how to wait for him. That people would pick up food and take care of me, and I would eat for myself, etc. I was happy with the blame. They came to accept Gary and found the good in the boy. To this day, during the video, he still asks about Gary and cares about him. While we were all waiting in line to ride the roller coaster, my aunt was even more afraid that Gary would be alone, so she quietly brought along her three-month-old nephew to wait for us down there. Their carefulness, but also let me appreciate.

 

 

 

 

But today, to tell this seemingly happy and happy love story behind the hardships, not to show how great they are, how this love is touching. I hope that every disabled person or couple who is looking forward to love should understand the importance of understanding each other. Don't just think about the sweetness of love, but love yourself, respect and understand others, and understand the difficulties and objections that two families have to go through to accept each other in a relationship, and their willingness to stick it out. Here I wish you can find that worthy of their love!

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